Posts Tagged ‘Crafting our life’

MKMMA Week 14 – With Apologies to Gene Siskel

Thursday, January 2nd, 2014

During this “holiday break” week we were tasked with watching one (or more) or four movies – October Sky, Cool Runnings, Door-to Door and Rudy, looking for the classic “Hero’s Journey” characteristics in each.

Interesting how even Napoleon Hill and Haanel before him recognized the epic saga of human accomplishment in the same way, if not in the same words. The characteristics we are to look for: a Definite Major Purpose, a Positive Mental Attitude, a Plan of Action and a Mastermind Alliance.

I’d seen Cool Runnings back when it was relatively new and though hadn’t watched it since, can still remember the presence of all of those characteristics in that story, if not the details.

The other three were new to me, and Door-to-Door appears to be nearly out of print, so I opted for October Sky, easily available for rent through iTunes and Amazon.

Our hero in this story is a high school student in a West Virginia coal mining town in the mid-1950’s. The classic “company town” where everyone was born into mining families, grew up to work in the mine and eventually, one way or another, died there, he is inspired by the notoriety of the launch of Russia’s Sputnik to become a rocket man.

Predictable he’s met with cynicism and sarcasm by friends and family who want to “keep him in his place”. Predictable not only as a movie plot but as the common reaction we all face when we try to leave the status quo of mediocrity and seek something more, something better. The fears and jealousy of those around us try to hold us back, to reassure themselves least we invalidate their existence.

None the less he focused his desire and built into a burning purpose of his life, and became determined that he would succeed. He created a Mastermind Alliance, gathering his friends and making new ones to surround himself with a group of like minded individuals. He also employed Hill’s “Invisible Councilor” in his correspondence with Werner von Braun.

He created a clear Plan of Action, learning everything he could about rocket-making and soliciting the help of his Mastermind group to fill in the gaps.

Though facing numerous setbacks and obstacles he never truly lost his Positive Mental Attitude, persevered and succeeded.

The underlying “Hero’s Journey” that defines this story is that which truly defines every endeavor in our human existence. Weather factual (as this story is) or fiction, we all seek the meaning and fulfillment of the hero who sets out to rise above the rest and return successful.

Some will always seek the achievement vicariously, through movies, sports, novels, while a few of us at some point decide to embark on our own Hero’s Journey and discover the greater meaning in our lives.

 

 

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MKMMA Week 12 – R2A2: It doesn’t Matter Whether or Not You Believe …

Saturday, December 21st, 2013

… In the Law of Attraction; it believes in you.

For the past couple of months I’ve been closely involved in a good friend’s quest for a new home. She learned that the house she is currently renting was going to be sold at some point in a few months, and would eventually need to find someplace new to live.

While the sale of the current house is not imminent (due to a variety of factors regarding this particular property), she immediately went into frantic “gotta find a house” mode.

At this point I should mention that we’ve had – or at least have begun – conversations about the underlying concepts we’re all learning and hoping to master here in our Master Key Master Mind Alliance program.

Her response: “Oh, you believe in all that foo-foo attraction stuff…”

Yeah. Okay. So …

She put into her head that she had to find a house. Took action – found a mortgage broker, got pre-approved, found a realtor, began looking at what was available.

Trouble was, everything she saw that fit her ideas was about 30-40 percent higher than what she could afford. And everything in her price range was either too small, already under contract, or both.

Her reaction – her “affirmation” – “I don’t think I’m going to find the house I want, everything I can afford is too small.” Hmm, the wording could use a little work there.

BUT, she kept looking. Not with conscious “intention” because, remember, she doesn’t believe in all that stuff, but nonetheless, with a driving, focused desire that she wanted to find a house that met her needs and wants, in her price range.

At this point somewhat dejected she kept looking, and went to see one more house she’d heard of.

Came back and said “I think I just looked at the house I’m going to buy. It’s a little small, but I’m not going to find anything better in my price.” It was still $20K higher than her top-end approval.

She went to look at it a second time, and brought me along.

“Hmm, this is actually larger than the way you described it, and you can do this, and this, and it’s in a great location. It’s actually a pretty nice house.” But of course there’s that price thing. I’d gone with her before to look at others that were well over her limit, and of course they came to naught.

Now she was dead-on focused. She WANTED this house. It was an all-consuming desire. (It almost sounds like it had become a DMP, but of course, she doesn’t believe in all that stuff.)

This one was a FSBO, so the owners were there when we looked at it. We all talked as much as we did looked at the house, and the four of us seemed to hit it off, to create a good energy, a good connection.

So at her realtor’s suggestion she put in an offer about $7K under her limit, about $27K under the asking price. He reasoned it’s a FSBO not in the MRIS so nobody knows about it. It’s actually well under what other houses in the area are valued at, so it’s a good price.

There was one other person looking later that day, otherwise, no offers on it yet.

She put her offer in Monday; Tuesday she heard back: the other person had put an offer in also, just $10K under the asking price.

Hmm. She countered with an offer at her max – still $10K under the other offer. “I’m a little sad, I don’t think I’m going to get the house.”

The realtor was describing to me the conversation at the counter offer presentation. He had begun trying to work on the price issue, but every time the husband pointed out that the other offer was so much higher, the wife replied “but she really LIKES the house!” So the realtor changed strategies and worked on the relationship aspect, and how we’d all really seemed to liked each other. At the previous meeting with all of us they had mentioned that their own home was just up the street (this one had been an investment property), and they really liked the idea of her being their neighbor. And how that was important.

So he left them with her offer, letting them know that it was her absolute best.

The next day the news came back. The house was under contract.

 

Hers.

She settles in February.

So it would seem that even though she did not “believe” in consciously applying the steps in attraction what she wanted, she “inadvertently” fell into the middle of it, with a white-hot focused burning desire, excluding everything else.

And yes, she expressed doubt a few times. But she also spent endless hours thinking about “her” house and how much she wanted it.

And what she thought about with focus and passion manifested.

 

Makes you wonder what somebody who DOES believe in all this foo-foo stuff, and does INTENTIONALLY create that desire, that focused image, and concentrates on it with burning hot emotion, could accomplish …

 

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MKMMA Week 11 – You Really Are Amazing

Saturday, December 14th, 2013

You are a very special person. Since you’re reading this you’ve almost certainly heard Mark J say this over and over again. I wonder if you’re realizing just how true that is.

All of us on this MKMMA journey are realizing just how much we’re growing – evolving, really – from where we were. It’s clear in the blogs and postings in the community how everyone is seeing little and big changes in their lives as a result.

Being immersed in this group with a common mindset, a common energy, it at times comes as a surprise, and a bit of a reality check, to realize just how unique we are here, and how so many people have no concept and awareness of the principles we’re learning.

I imagine you like me have become so “comfortable” in our new reality that we sort of anticipate our many interactions and relationships to occur on that same level of awareness.

This week was exceptionally … educational. (And hence the late posting)

I recently enrolled a new team member who has so many of the attributes that would seem to make them perfect for a relationship-driven business like ours. A tremendous affinity for other people. An almost intuitive understanding of the nuances of connecting emotionally.

With everyone except themselves.

And so I watch, feeling helpless, as they charge ahead energetically to engage others, then foundering and effectively dashing themselves on the rocks in the maelstrom of their own low self-esteem and beliefs.

On one level we’re all still infants on this journey, yet the realization of just how much we’ve learned and grown causes us to believe we should be able to easily and effortlessly share and instill it all in the people we’re working with.

Teaching the “skills”, with the help of the materials available in the Go90Grow modules is fairly easy and straight forward. Teaching someone that they are so much more than they may currently realize is a much higher mountain to scale. Here it’s not about what we can teach them but what they’re willing and ready to accept and believe about themselves.

And just as with all of us, that has to come not from without, but from within.

On one hand I feel I’ve come a vast distance in just short of three months. Yet I also fell I’m standing here ob my own, and trying to discover the way to show the path to all those I want to join me here and on the road to come.

“It is well, however, to remember that while every effect is the result of a cause, the effect in turn becomes a cause, which creates other effects, which in turn create still other causes; so that when you put the law of attraction into operation you must remember that you are starting a train of causation for good or otherwise which may have endless possibilities.”

– Haanel, The Master Key

There’s still a lot to learn.

 

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MKMMA Week 10 – I Persist

Saturday, December 7th, 2013

I have to admit, when I read Scroll Three of Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in The World for the first time this Sunday, I reacted with acceptance and the realization that this is a core value in success in anything – persistence, just doing it and keeping on doing it until you achieve the result you’re looking for.

I’d seen it written in a hundred different little inspirational quotes, and even repeated a few from time to time. So it was no surprise.

But it also awakened all those past apprehensions I’ve had that had been instrumental in keeping me from being where and who I wanted to be.

It read like a laundry list of all the little devils that had stopped me in the past.

Right from the very beginning – keep on going even if it hurts a little, go right back at it. Much easier to let that one go and try another.

All the way through to doing that one more thing – trying for one more at the end of the day, instead of going home at “quitting time”. Tomorrow’s another day, right?

I know they were all true and good points, but it meant really DOING the things I’d been saying I ought to do. Facing and overcoming all those demons.

But as I read the Scroll three times a day, and as I went through my daily activities, I found myself applying those little tasks – services, perhaps – a lot more easily that I had in the past. And as I DO them, I find a satisfaction that encourages me to continue to continue, and to do more.

When they become easier to do, they become a pleasure to perform, and when they’re a pleasure to perform, it’s our nature to perform them often.

So, as I do more and thus find myself willing to do more, I discovered that these past demons weren’t big scary monsters. Not even little ankle-biting gremlins. I’m finding that I don’t even view them as things to be apprehensive about at all. Just services to perform and perform again until I achieve the result I desire.

I’m not all the way there yet, but hey, it hasn’t even been a full week on Scroll Three.

Bit by bit, without consciously realizing it, the changes in me that I described in last week’s post continue to occur.

Huh, maybe there really is something to all this stuff …

I think I’ll just keep at it until I find out.

 

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MKMMA Week 8 – Thank You

Sunday, November 24th, 2013

It is truly amazing how a mastermind helps you reveal things you just can’t seem to figure out on your own.

I wrote last week about my dissatisfaction with my DMP, of not having the “feeling” form it that made it play to my soul.

I wrote of trying to analyze it to “determine” the true meanings behind each part – more of attempting to use my analytical objective mind to solve the issue.

But it was when I read Tommy Gun’s blog post (I love you, Tommy – Thank You!) about their cruise and their actually living their DMP NOW on one level, that it smacked me in the face like a wet tuna.

Well, what I envision being smacked in the face with a wet tuna might feel like. I don’t actually have any first-hand experience with the sensation of being smacked in the face with a wet tuna. Mark, any insights, fell free to enlighten.

I’ve been approaching my DMP and PPNs as things I’m aspiring to achieve, that I don’t have now. Yet nearly everything I’ve written is something I already have in some degree – my desire is to have MORE of it!

I’ve always heard that murmur in the background that “money isn’t important – it’s not the real thing” that you want. An true, the physical experience of just having more money sitting in a pile in front of me (or a bigger number on the bank balance) isn’t the true desire.

Certainly the “dollars” count. But that’s because they allow me “more” of everything – more freedom, time, resources to have and do and be “more” of all the things I have now and do now and am now and want to expand and fill my life with.

It wasn’t my DMP that wasn’t resonating with my soul, it was the purpose behind it, the reason for wanting all those things.

I was thinking I needed to strive for something I didn’t currently have.

In reality, and what caused the shift in feeling and belief, is that I already enjoy many of those things, and my desire is to expand and grow the abundance that I already have.

Through my journey of Spiritual Growth, I am able to Help Others more – with their financial and True physical Health through USANA; through helping young people living in an environment that doesn’t instill much hope and belief in the future to learn to see their world creatively with photography and thereby realize and extend their innate creative abilities to all aspects of their lives.

In so doing I create a Legacy, of results that continue on well beyond my own current endeavors. I realize the Reward for my own Creative Expression, both from the things I create directly and those I help others create.

I ‘m developing the Liberty and Autonomy to continue to experience and expand all those things, and the True Health to continue doing so for many years to come.

Since realizing, with Tommy’s help, that I’m already living my DMP to some degree, I am continually consciously grateful for want I already have, every day.

So while I’ve made a few (very) minor adjustments and rearrangements in wording in my DPM it remains essentially the same. I’m now experiencing it with an entirely new and more intense level of emotion, through gratitude.

I’ve written the words before and believed them, but they ring especially true today:

Life truly is an amazing place to live.

Thank you. I Love You.

 

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MKMMA Week 7 – Picture This

Saturday, November 16th, 2013

This week’s Friday MKMMA blog deadline finds me immersed in a work – a rework – in progress.

It seemed like a simple enough task. Week/Chapter 7 of Haanel’s Master Key System charges us to apply Visualization to our thoughts.

Well, this should be a gimme for me. I’m a flat out “Visual” on the VAK scale (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic).

Heck, I’m a photographer! I “see” the world in pictures all the time. I look at things and picture them in ways that make people say “dang, how’d you see THAT?”

I see things that aren’t even there!

Okay, that’s probably a topic for another story.

So Visualizing my DMP should be a no-brainer, right?

Well, yes. And no, not quite.

Maybe because I respond so strongly to visual images, this week it really became clear that as grand and lovely and emotional-sounding as my DMP was, the true, core feelings and emotions in me aren’t happening.

It’s written well. Lots of emotional sounding words. Lots of noble sounding thoughts. But it still isn’t igniting that burning fire that will cause me to push through any barrier to get to it.

As good as it reads, it’s still features and benefits, not the core emotions, not the true criteria.

So it’s more sitting. And walking. Not that I haven’t been sitting and walking before.

I’ve done plenty of sitting, looking for answers in its embryonic stages, working to come up with what seemed like just the right DMP.

Heck, it seems like there were days when the only time I wasn’t sitting was when I was laying down sleeping. I’m becoming the Forrest Gump of Sitting.

“Sit, Stu, Sit!”

And walking? Ha! I’m doing plenty of that. Why, if I stopped walking “in circles”, starting and coming back to my front door, and just set off walking in one direction, I’d probably realize one of my DMP goals of “Seeing the Entire World”, just walking to figure out this DMP thing.

“Walk, Stu, Walk!”

So I’ve decided to approach it quasi- Ben Franklin style, but with different column subjects. I’ve taken all the goals in my current DMP and listed them in the left column. Realizing that they’re mostly “features”. Then a center column, which lists the “benefit” of that feature.

And then, on the right is the true criteria column, the “what’s important about that” column. And in some cases maybe another column, “what’s really important about that?

I know how to do this in conversation. Time to look inside and have that conversation with myself, and get to the true core of what I really want, what it’s really all about.

So that’s where I am. It isn’t there yet. Won’t be tonight. Maybe not for a few nights. Like I said, a re-work, a work in progress.

But then again I guess that’s what we all really are, all the time.

I’ll get ‘er done. I’ll see it through, and create that true image. And when I do I’ll show you what it looks like.

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MKMMA Week 5.2.0 – I “Got ‘er Done!”

Sunday, November 3rd, 2013

Well , it’s up, I finally posted my “Press Release”.

I not only used the additional two days we received from Mark, but even the extra hour granted by the time change from Daylight Savings Time! Thank you.

When the assignment was first announced it seemed like a fairly simple thing. I already have a 1000-word plus DMP from the early stages of the Think and Grow Rich class this past spring. Plenty of material to draw from.

But as I tried to write the thing I kept blocking up. It just didn’t feel right. And I kept stalling, looking for a direction.

In the end I went through a complete re-evaluation of my DMP and even my PPN’s. I’d used shorter-term benchmarks in my “finalized” MKMMA DMP, but they somehow weren’t causing the true meaning of it all to resonate.

Was that perhaps the reason it was so easy to drift this past week?

It’s interesting that as I read other blog posts from this week, there seems to be a shared “disconnect”, a feeling that we weren’t truly feeling the energy we’re intending to create.

Was this assignment a diabolical plot from Mark and the team? Have they, having been through this before, anticipated these reactions at this stage and planted this to challenge us to re-examine our true beliefs?

I need to be careful, lest my questions stray into the realm of “opinion”!

Hmm … does posing a thought as a “question” exonerate it from being expressed as an “opinion”? Have I found a loophole in this “opinion” thing?

Or is the “loophole” in reality that the more effective way of expressing our ideas is not to tell others what we think they should think or do, but to pose a question for us both to consider?

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MKMMA Week Four – Ask and You Shall Receive

Friday, October 25th, 2013

I feel like I’m writing this at the eleventh hour – just ahead of our Friday evening blog post target in our Master Key Master Mind Alliance program.

But that’s because all these pesky affirmations – intentions? – requests? – that we’re being taught to put into our minds and out to the universe have been bearing fruit this week, causing me to take action on what I’m receiving.

Which is an enlightened way of saying, it’s been a busy week!

Having read my little bio over on the right, you realize that one of my professions is that of professional photographer.

Well, over the past five years or so, the vibrancy of that business has been steadily declining. Naturally, by thinking about that all the time I had been asking for it to be more and more true. (Doooah! – Note to self: this stuff works both ways, all the time, no matter what I’m thinking. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR THOUGHTS!)

This is what caused me to realize that the profession of network marketing could be a good option for this new evolution of an economy. In fact, it’s clear that network marketing is the ideal business for today and the future.

So I’ve been thinking more lately about building my network marketing business, and not so much about photography. Not trying to eliminate thoughts of a fading photography business, just not thinking about it, thinking about something else.

And earlier this month I set a short term goal for my income for October, 2013.

Well, the network marketing income is continually growing nicely, but the Universe has a memory too. And this month it remembered “hey, aren’t you that guy that takes pictures?”

So early last week, about mid-month, reaching that goal looked kind of questionable. Then Wednesday I received a call from a client I had done one job for last year, who had a last minute project in Baltimore they needed shot. “Why, ehem, yes, yes I think I am available that day.”

Then this Wednesday morning, while getting ready to leave for that shoot,  I received a call from another “long lost” client. She just found out about a magazine submission and needed photos right away. Do I have any time this week?

“Well, let me see. Yes I think I can work that in on Friday.”

Result: within one week, from completely unanticipated sources, I am right on track to meet my October target.

I’d been trying to “help” the Universe by thinking up ways to do what I want to do. But she knows better.

“Just ask, and keep your eyes open, so you can see what I’m giving you.”

Just as we learn in the MKMMA, our ability to influence our reality with our thoughts is happening all around us, all the time, every day. I don’t just believe it, I KNOW it, I experience it daily, it is my life!

And yet every time I realize that it’s happened, it amazes me, it’s like Christmas morning every day.

Life really is a pretty great place to live.

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Week One – Those Voices Inside Our Head

Wednesday, October 2nd, 2013

No, not those voices. Can’t help you with them.

I’m talking about our own voice that talks to us all the time. We all do it. Can’t turn it off.

What it says matters far  more than many realize.

The Master Key Master Mind Alliance course with Mark Jaznuszewski that 300 of us have just begun will help guide us to make sure what we tell ourselves is what we truly want to hear – and bring us to where and who we want to be.

Chances are if you’re reading something like this by now you’re at a place in your life where you’ve read Napoleon Hill’s “Think And Grow Rich”. Maybe not studied it, maybe not fully embraced the message and the system, but at least you’re familiar with it.

There’s a good chance you’ve also read, heard and looked at some of the other more recent philosophers of success and self-development, many of whom have reworded Hill’s message in their own voice.

And then of course there’s the infamous “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne, which brought the concept of the Law of Attraction into popular mass awareness. I say infamous, as many have scoffed at the message as being unrealistic, that it suggests all that is needed is to sit and wish and wait for money to show up at your door.

That’s because many who’ve watched, or listened to , or read the it have ignored the underlying key expressed by everyone in it – that ACTION is a necessary part of attraction. It’s in there for those who are willing to hear it, and who are willing to take responsibility for their lives.

While this course and this message isn’t about “The Secret”, the Law of Attraction is certainly a core underlying element in what we study, what we think, and who we are. “We tend to become that which we think about most of the time” (Earl Nightingale’s “Strangest Secret”).

What we think – what our inner voice tells our subconscious mind – are the instructions that the subconscious obeys to give us what we tell it we want.

This part isn’t something we have to learn. It’s happening all the time, and has been ever since we’ve had the ability to think. The problem for many people is that they don’t realize this, and don’t realize or accept that what they have, where they are and who they are is exactly what they’ve asked for.

Each and every one of us has created our lives to wherever we are right now, and continue to do so. There’s no one else to blame.

For some that comes as bad news and is unacceptable. They are the ones who will continue to sit on the couch, wish for a different life, and blame their current one on everything and everyone except themselves.

But for those of us who realize just how incredibly powerful this makes us – each and every one of us – it’s an exciting revelation that we can create whatever life we want. Some who’ve understood this all along already have, and continue to do so.

Since the concept of the power of the subconscious and it’s connection to Universal Energy through the Law of Attraction has been on my mind for a while now, it’s no surprise to me that lately I’m hearing examples of it everywhere, in what I’m reading, CD’s I’m listening to, conversations and talks I’m engaged in.

If you’re new to all this, you should re-read that last sentence a few times, until the message in it really dawns on you.

In every instance, people have described having achieved their successes, whatever that may be for them, once they determined, absolutely, and put in their minds that this is what they have and who they are.

No, none of them sat on the couch and waited for the Publishers Clearing House van to pull up outside their door.

They all took action, and did the things necessary to make these things happen. But so did a lot of others who did not achieve the same successful results.

The difference is that those who succeeded had already determined that they had done so, and instilled that in their subconscious as their reality.

 

Now if you’ve been reading this at the end of your day, and all along have been talking to yourself that “it’s time for dinner”, by now chances are you’ve attracted quite an appetite.

Go have a great (nutritious and healthy) meal, and check back here often, to see what I’m thinking about next.

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