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MKMMA Week 10 – I Persist

Saturday, December 7th, 2013

I have to admit, when I read Scroll Three of Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in The World for the first time this Sunday, I reacted with acceptance and the realization that this is a core value in success in anything – persistence, just doing it and keeping on doing it until you achieve the result you’re looking for.

I’d seen it written in a hundred different little inspirational quotes, and even repeated a few from time to time. So it was no surprise.

But it also awakened all those past apprehensions I’ve had that had been instrumental in keeping me from being where and who I wanted to be.

It read like a laundry list of all the little devils that had stopped me in the past.

Right from the very beginning – keep on going even if it hurts a little, go right back at it. Much easier to let that one go and try another.

All the way through to doing that one more thing – trying for one more at the end of the day, instead of going home at “quitting time”. Tomorrow’s another day, right?

I know they were all true and good points, but it meant really DOING the things I’d been saying I ought to do. Facing and overcoming all those demons.

But as I read the Scroll three times a day, and as I went through my daily activities, I found myself applying those little tasks – services, perhaps – a lot more easily that I had in the past. And as I DO them, I find a satisfaction that encourages me to continue to continue, and to do more.

When they become easier to do, they become a pleasure to perform, and when they’re a pleasure to perform, it’s our nature to perform them often.

So, as I do more and thus find myself willing to do more, I discovered that these past demons weren’t big scary monsters. Not even little ankle-biting gremlins. I’m finding that I don’t even view them as things to be apprehensive about at all. Just services to perform and perform again until I achieve the result I desire.

I’m not all the way there yet, but hey, it hasn’t even been a full week on Scroll Three.

Bit by bit, without consciously realizing it, the changes in me that I described in last week’s post continue to occur.

Huh, maybe there really is something to all this stuff …

I think I’ll just keep at it until I find out.

 

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MKMMA Week 6-1/2 – Three Feet From a Promise

Monday, November 11th, 2013

Each week as part of our exercises in the Master Key Master Mind Alliance, to reprogram our subconscious minds to believing what we say, we are asked to add a new service, a simple task to be completed by the end of the week.

On last Sunday’s call Mark J emphasized “living by the compass” rather than the clock, and asked that we all get a simple compass to carry with us as a reminder.

I immediately thought “great, fantastic, I have that really neat sighting compass I used to use in my photography.

It’s a camping/hiking/survival compass, has a lid with a mirror and guide line to plot your course, really nice one. I’d used it in conjunction with a gadget named a “Sundicator”, a little plastic disc which would tell me where the sun would be at a particular time on a given day. That way I could plan my shooting so the sun would be where I wanted on my subject.

Of course now I have not one but several “apps” that do all that quickly and easily so the compass has been put up “somewhere” for several years. Where?

I instantly turned to the drawers where I stash my unused photo stuff, but it wasn’t anywhere in there. I did find the box with the other Sundicators – they came in a set for different latitudes, since where you are on the earth will determine where the sun will be on a given time and day …

Okay, never mind all that. If you understood what I just wrote you’re clearly as geeky as I am. If you didn’t, don’t worry. It’s not important for the story.

What I DID find in the box, wrapped in foam, was the little brass compass that was included in the kit. Unused, since I’d always used my neat sighting compass. Which was nowhere to be seen.

So although I now had a compass to fulfill the assignment, I decided I HAD to find my “good” one, and so last week added the service “I promise to find my good compass by November 10th”.

After scouring all the drawers for a second and third time, I began rummaging through the dozen boxes that are in the corner of my office since my move-in three years ago, full of stuff I figured I’d need badly enough not to resign to the storage space I’d rented. Naturally I rarely need any of that stuff.

Nothing in there.

“When did I start using the apps, was it before I moved? Could it be in the storage room?” let’s see, I always had it in the camera bag, and I’ve switched bags several times over the past few years. I’d put the unused ones in the storage room, out of the way.

So Tuesday it was off to the storage facility, and searching through the camera bags – to no avail.

“What about all these other boxes, piled ten-deep – they’re all clothes and kitchen stuff, I’m 99% sure. I’m not ready to tear everything in the room apart. After all I DO have A compass to use.”

At this point it was becoming as much of an obsession as a promise. I had even changed it on one of the cards from “I promise to find my good compass by November 10th” to “I promise to look for my good compass by November 10th”. But the subbie was having none of that.

“What about my flight bag up in the attic? I haven’t flown for a couple of years – did I somehow stick it in there?” Nope. But hey, there’s that flashlight I’d been looking for!

Now it was Sunday morning, November 10th. I’ve looked in every nook and cranny of the house, and wasn’t about to completely unpack the storage room.

“What about that box of maps and charts? Isn’t that somewhere in the storage room? Maybe it’s in there.”

ONE more trip to the storage room, and that is it. This is becoming such an obsession, I’m concerned I’m anchoring looking for something with not getting what I’m looking for – I DON’T want to do that! Of course, nothing there.

Okay. I’ve given this an Olympic effort. I’ll be moving again in three to six months, unpacking all those boxes. It’s in one of them; I’ll just wait until then. I do have a compass to use now. I WILL NOT completely unload the storage room over this.

I’d done just about everything I could think of. Had very good, logical reasons for abandoning the search. I really was concerned with creating bad anchors in the process of trying to create a good habit.

Drove back home. Sat momentarily in the truck, looked around. The utility bag I keep in there as my “mobile office”? I’ve rearranged that thing several times recently. Nope.

The console between the seats? Same thing. Same result. There’s no reason it would be in the truck – I always had it in the camera bag.

What’s in the glove compartment? Owner’s manual. Huh, I’d forgotten about those sunglasses. Geeze these earbuds are for an earpiece I had three phones back, guess they’re trash. And this brittle piece of plastic bag? More trash?

 

Huh. Oh. It’s the little bag with the Sundicator. And the compass. How about that.

 

There it was. After searching all over MY world for the week, and deciding it was time to quit. I reached over three feet to the glove box. And there it was.

I’ve read the stories about “Acres of Diamonds” and Darby’s gold mine, and all the motivational quips about how many have found success just past the point where they were about to give up. Got it intellectually, thought I’d really taken it to heart.

But never has it hit home so completely as being three feet from success all week. And making that one extra try.

From this moment on, there is no doubt. I absolutely, ALWAYS keep my promises.

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MKMMA Week 6 – The Shapes of Things to Come

Thursday, November 7th, 2013

We’ve been using colored shapes in our DMPs, movie trailer and promise cards for most of the past five weeks. This week we’ve bumped it up a big notch, creating posters and adding our PPN’s into the shapes.

If we’ve been casually observing them in the world around us previously, this week they’re impossible to avoid!

it’s interesting that on last Sunday’s MKMMA call Mark mentioned someone who had begun to notice green triangles in pine trees. I had been seeing the same thing during that week before.

Seems we’re all seeing similar things lately. Mass illusions or Mass-terminding? Is there really a difference other than the focus and purpose of the thoughts – the mechanism of our concentration?

 

It’s early November here in the Mid-Atlantic. Come to think of it, it’s probably early November wherever you are too …

Well, anyway, what that means here is for the past two weeks  my fellow photographers, photography students and I had all been anxiously awaiting the arrival of the “fall colors”. They seemed to be very late in appearing, and many had concluded that this would be a less-than spectacular fall, with leaves just turning brown and dropping.

Then late last week, they seemed to have changed overnight. One evening we all went to bed with green and brown trees, and the next morning woke up in a sea of color!

I went out for a walk in the neighborhood that day. (Walking is my second, and sometimes even more beneficial form of “sit”.)

At first I began to notice the green triangles in the evergreens, from the towering white pines to the small sculpted bushes in the landscaping surrounding all the homes. Then I realized that the big glowing yellow maples had a sort of square-ish, if free-form shape to them.

Then there were the red dogwoods, the red-orange cherries, and those shrubs I don’t know the name of that are green all summer and turn a bright red in late fall. All brilliant red orbs.

I was surprised too, upon really concentrating, how many of the homes have blue siding, blue shutters, and how even the blue sky, viewed through the frame of our field of vision, takes on a blue rectangle form.

Now I’m completely surrounded by reds and greens and yellow and blues, all anchored to my personal pivotal needs and purpose!

And then there’s that one house, Williamsburg blue siding, yellow window trim and shutters, with 20 – maybe 30 little green evergreen cones along the front, the red Japanese maple, the red dogwood, the red-orange cherry, the blue sky behind … BAM! Fuggeddaboudit!!

“No, really, I’m not staking out that house. No I’m not lurking. No really, call Mark, he’ll tell you all about it, no, wait, I … oh cool, your light bar has little flashing red circles in it …”

 

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MKMMA Week 5.2.0 – I “Got ‘er Done!”

Sunday, November 3rd, 2013

Well , it’s up, I finally posted my “Press Release”.

I not only used the additional two days we received from Mark, but even the extra hour granted by the time change from Daylight Savings Time! Thank you.

When the assignment was first announced it seemed like a fairly simple thing. I already have a 1000-word plus DMP from the early stages of the Think and Grow Rich class this past spring. Plenty of material to draw from.

But as I tried to write the thing I kept blocking up. It just didn’t feel right. And I kept stalling, looking for a direction.

In the end I went through a complete re-evaluation of my DMP and even my PPN’s. I’d used shorter-term benchmarks in my “finalized” MKMMA DMP, but they somehow weren’t causing the true meaning of it all to resonate.

Was that perhaps the reason it was so easy to drift this past week?

It’s interesting that as I read other blog posts from this week, there seems to be a shared “disconnect”, a feeling that we weren’t truly feeling the energy we’re intending to create.

Was this assignment a diabolical plot from Mark and the team? Have they, having been through this before, anticipated these reactions at this stage and planted this to challenge us to re-examine our true beliefs?

I need to be careful, lest my questions stray into the realm of “opinion”!

Hmm … does posing a thought as a “question” exonerate it from being expressed as an “opinion”? Have I found a loophole in this “opinion” thing?

Or is the “loophole” in reality that the more effective way of expressing our ideas is not to tell others what we think they should think or do, but to pose a question for us both to consider?

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MKMMA Week 5 – We Are Our Own Creation

Friday, November 1st, 2013

“The mind … is largely the result of heredity …we are today the result of our past thinking, and we shall be what we are thinking of today”.

Charles Haanel, The Master Key System, part 5.

Last week I wrote that we receive what we ask for. This week I’m reminded that we always receive what we ask for. So be careful what you ask!

It was a reasonably good week, a bit unpredictable in spots again, but flowing well. Until something yesterday turned it all inside out.

I was out running errands, when the (seemingly inevitable) driver pulled out way too close in front of me. It’s become a constant in this overcrowded always in a hurry society here. I’ve begun to notice with appreciation and gratitude when it doesn’t happen.

I’m training myself to respond at least neutrally, but this offense seemed especially egregious, and my “instinctive” temper responded with foul thoughts and epithets.

Haanel writes of “our Own”, what we inherently are, the results or our past thinking.

Interesting how at a family get-together last month, seeing cousins for the first time in ten years, the conversation at some point went with humorous acknowledgement to our legendary “Estler Temper” shared by all.

So ingrained that we’ve named it, taken possession of it, and made it a viable entity all its own.

Clearly this tendency for swift response to a perceived wrong goes well back into past generations, as we all share it and recognize it independently of each other.

Such a deeply instilled characteristic is taking some effort to replace with a good habit.

Well, I suppose you can imagine how the rest of my day yesterday went.

Thinking with energy and emotion of the offense only brought on several more incidents of the same. Each time causing more of a funk, which reproduced itself as I thought about it and how to “get rid of it”.

You can’t eliminate anything by thinking about the thing. That which we think about grows; that which we ignore atrophies.

Spending the rest of the day thinking about how best to “not think about it” was, predictably, unproductive. I needed a positive though, a soul-encompassing feeling to fill my consciousness with.

 

Meanwhile …

Today is November 1st, and the first day of reading Scroll Two of The Greatest Salesman in the World.

Some may have anxiously peered ahead, curious for a glimpse of our future readings, but I was absolutely true to reading Scroll One and only Scroll One for the past thirty days. Did not look at one word of Scroll Two.

So you can perhaps imagine the elation and joy that overcame me when I read the first sentence this morning.

“I will greet this day with love in my heart.”

What a glorious surprise! The following lines of the Scroll compounded and grew those feelings, possibly with an intensity I would not have experienced if not for my encounter with “Funky Thursday”.

Our instructions are to read each Scroll three times daily, morning, mid-day and night. I’ve already read this one four or five times, once out loud, and it’s not even 4:00pm.

Love indeed “is the answer”.

We create as our reality whatever we think about. We must be a constant watchman of our thoughts.

I love you.

 

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Week Three – The Power of Now

Thursday, October 17th, 2013

If you’re reading this chances are you’re a student of self-development and self actualization.

No doubt you’ve read and heard quite a bit about setting goals and intentions. And within that the importance of programming and reprogramming our subconscious mind in order to be effective in achieving our goals, and in fact to have any meaningful impact at all.

The subconscious has been likened to an elephant while the conscious mind that of an ant. I heard another comparison this weekend with the subconscious being the elephant and the conscious the small boy with a stick sitting on the elephant, directing it.

The intent of these analogies is to illustrate that the subconscious is the far more powerful portion of our minds, but that it is only capable of doing exactly what we consciously tell it to. The challenge is that few of us really understand how to direct the subconscious, and how precise our instructions, intended or otherwise, are carried out.

That last part is essential to understand, because we are always directing our subconscious to do what we say, whether we intend to or not. There is no escaping this.

Another analogy may be the super computer and the programmer. They came up with jargon such as “WYSIWYG” – What You See Is What You Get” – and “garbage in, garbage out” because the big powerful electronic brain can only do exactly what it’s told. Give it bad information and it will still do exactly what it’s asked. It doesn’t know the difference.

This makes being precise in our instructions to our subconscious critically important.

We often see statements such as “I will” do this or become this. This is not just potentially less effective or prone to disappointing results, it could prove disastrous.

Instructing the subconscious that “I will earn $10,000 per month” or “I will reach my ideal weight of 170 pounds” sounds like we’re on the right track. When we tell our subconscious, with enthusiasm, with energy, with power  that we ”will” do these things, we’re programming our subconscious to do the things to move us towards these goals.

The trouble is, the subconscious doesn’t have quite the same interpretation of time as we do. It doesn’t really understand having been somewhere in the past, being here in the present, being there later. It only knows “now”.

When we tell our subconscious we “will” be or do something, we put that state in our future and our obedient elephant will insure that it stays there, always moving toward it, never quite achieving it.

That’s why it’s essential to use “I am” language when talking to our subconscious. By telling it “I am earning $10,000 per month”, “I am at my ideal weight of 170 pounds”, it sees that as what and where we are now, and it will insure that we are. What you (it) sees is what you get.

This was really brought home this week in Our Master Key program, where we are eliminating “I will” from Og Mandino’s “The Greatest Salesman in the World”, making all language in the present. After reading the above you can imagine this is music to my ears!

The first scroll teaches us to plant “good habits” in our subconscious, as habit is the key concept the subconscious uses to create and operate our life.

What I’m finding is that this week I’m being much more attentive to instilling and living by the habits I’m creating, for making calls, following the schedule I’ve set for myself – heck, even keeping the newly cleaned up and arranged front of my office in order.

Last week I promised to clean it up by Sunday October 13th, and did – by the Tuesday before. But I’ve cleaned it up in the past, and it usually took two to three days before “stuff” started re-accumulating. And within a week it looked just as bad as before.

Now I’ve developed the habit of putting things where they belong shortly after they “appear” on that table, day after day!

A coincidence that it’s coinciding with putting my new good habits in the present, instead of the future? Try it, and see for yourself.

Nice seeing you at the top.

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