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MKMMA Week 13 – Where Am I?

Sunday, December 29th, 2013

Mark and Davene were straight in when they cautioned us about having our focus disrupted over the holiday. I imagine those of you who like me traveled to visit others may have experienced similar challenges.

It’s not that I got off track with my readings and exercises – I made sure to be faithful to that. It wasn’t always easy and the schedule was pretty irregular much of the time, especially the mid-day sessions. But I made sure to do them

In fact if you haven’t already realized it, the “NARC” exercise that Mark introduced – maybe I should say “formally introduced” – on our last call is actually something we’ve been learning to do all along. He seems to enjoy that sort of thing. Kind of sneaking it in there unnoticed.

We’ve been anchoring doing the small services with keeping our promises and feeling good, so that when we miss by a bit or are unable to do everything we’ve promised due to things like schedules and unforeseen interruptions – ours and other peoples – we feel bad. And I kind of like that. Helps keep me on track.

But beyond the readings and exercises, I found myself feeling unfocused, a bit confused and a bit uncomfortable.

We’ve been creating and living by the habits of doing our exercises at specific times, in the same locations, anchoring that to being our normal way of doing things. Being in a different environment with all sorts of different and unfamiliar sensory inputs threw everything off, leaving me feeling a  bit dazed and drifting.

Good to realize this – to realize that the habits and routines are working, and to realize that I need to be prepared for the changes of breaking those routines so that we’re more flexible and more quickly and easily adaptable to new situations, while maintaining our focus.

Good to realize too that we’re becoming more and more able to recognize and learn from situations that don’t go quite as expected as we are when everything goes along according to plan.

Nonetheless, I’m finding I’m having to concentrate to regain my focus that was so clear a week ago. As I was traveling – driving – to my holiday destination my head and ears were full of clear business plans and thinking By the time I drove back – maybe a good analogy is that feeling when you suddenly wake up from one of those weird dreams that don’t make any sense (you do have those too, don’t you?) and you’re trying to regain your bearings.

And it’s only just begun.

Happy New Year!

 

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MKMMA Week 12 – R2A2: It doesn’t Matter Whether or Not You Believe …

Saturday, December 21st, 2013

… In the Law of Attraction; it believes in you.

For the past couple of months I’ve been closely involved in a good friend’s quest for a new home. She learned that the house she is currently renting was going to be sold at some point in a few months, and would eventually need to find someplace new to live.

While the sale of the current house is not imminent (due to a variety of factors regarding this particular property), she immediately went into frantic “gotta find a house” mode.

At this point I should mention that we’ve had – or at least have begun – conversations about the underlying concepts we’re all learning and hoping to master here in our Master Key Master Mind Alliance program.

Her response: “Oh, you believe in all that foo-foo attraction stuff…”

Yeah. Okay. So …

She put into her head that she had to find a house. Took action – found a mortgage broker, got pre-approved, found a realtor, began looking at what was available.

Trouble was, everything she saw that fit her ideas was about 30-40 percent higher than what she could afford. And everything in her price range was either too small, already under contract, or both.

Her reaction – her “affirmation” – “I don’t think I’m going to find the house I want, everything I can afford is too small.” Hmm, the wording could use a little work there.

BUT, she kept looking. Not with conscious “intention” because, remember, she doesn’t believe in all that stuff, but nonetheless, with a driving, focused desire that she wanted to find a house that met her needs and wants, in her price range.

At this point somewhat dejected she kept looking, and went to see one more house she’d heard of.

Came back and said “I think I just looked at the house I’m going to buy. It’s a little small, but I’m not going to find anything better in my price.” It was still $20K higher than her top-end approval.

She went to look at it a second time, and brought me along.

“Hmm, this is actually larger than the way you described it, and you can do this, and this, and it’s in a great location. It’s actually a pretty nice house.” But of course there’s that price thing. I’d gone with her before to look at others that were well over her limit, and of course they came to naught.

Now she was dead-on focused. She WANTED this house. It was an all-consuming desire. (It almost sounds like it had become a DMP, but of course, she doesn’t believe in all that stuff.)

This one was a FSBO, so the owners were there when we looked at it. We all talked as much as we did looked at the house, and the four of us seemed to hit it off, to create a good energy, a good connection.

So at her realtor’s suggestion she put in an offer about $7K under her limit, about $27K under the asking price. He reasoned it’s a FSBO not in the MRIS so nobody knows about it. It’s actually well under what other houses in the area are valued at, so it’s a good price.

There was one other person looking later that day, otherwise, no offers on it yet.

She put her offer in Monday; Tuesday she heard back: the other person had put an offer in also, just $10K under the asking price.

Hmm. She countered with an offer at her max – still $10K under the other offer. “I’m a little sad, I don’t think I’m going to get the house.”

The realtor was describing to me the conversation at the counter offer presentation. He had begun trying to work on the price issue, but every time the husband pointed out that the other offer was so much higher, the wife replied “but she really LIKES the house!” So the realtor changed strategies and worked on the relationship aspect, and how we’d all really seemed to liked each other. At the previous meeting with all of us they had mentioned that their own home was just up the street (this one had been an investment property), and they really liked the idea of her being their neighbor. And how that was important.

So he left them with her offer, letting them know that it was her absolute best.

The next day the news came back. The house was under contract.

 

Hers.

She settles in February.

So it would seem that even though she did not “believe” in consciously applying the steps in attraction what she wanted, she “inadvertently” fell into the middle of it, with a white-hot focused burning desire, excluding everything else.

And yes, she expressed doubt a few times. But she also spent endless hours thinking about “her” house and how much she wanted it.

And what she thought about with focus and passion manifested.

 

Makes you wonder what somebody who DOES believe in all this foo-foo stuff, and does INTENTIONALLY create that desire, that focused image, and concentrates on it with burning hot emotion, could accomplish …

 

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MKMMA Week 11 – You Really Are Amazing

Saturday, December 14th, 2013

You are a very special person. Since you’re reading this you’ve almost certainly heard Mark J say this over and over again. I wonder if you’re realizing just how true that is.

All of us on this MKMMA journey are realizing just how much we’re growing – evolving, really – from where we were. It’s clear in the blogs and postings in the community how everyone is seeing little and big changes in their lives as a result.

Being immersed in this group with a common mindset, a common energy, it at times comes as a surprise, and a bit of a reality check, to realize just how unique we are here, and how so many people have no concept and awareness of the principles we’re learning.

I imagine you like me have become so “comfortable” in our new reality that we sort of anticipate our many interactions and relationships to occur on that same level of awareness.

This week was exceptionally … educational. (And hence the late posting)

I recently enrolled a new team member who has so many of the attributes that would seem to make them perfect for a relationship-driven business like ours. A tremendous affinity for other people. An almost intuitive understanding of the nuances of connecting emotionally.

With everyone except themselves.

And so I watch, feeling helpless, as they charge ahead energetically to engage others, then foundering and effectively dashing themselves on the rocks in the maelstrom of their own low self-esteem and beliefs.

On one level we’re all still infants on this journey, yet the realization of just how much we’ve learned and grown causes us to believe we should be able to easily and effortlessly share and instill it all in the people we’re working with.

Teaching the “skills”, with the help of the materials available in the Go90Grow modules is fairly easy and straight forward. Teaching someone that they are so much more than they may currently realize is a much higher mountain to scale. Here it’s not about what we can teach them but what they’re willing and ready to accept and believe about themselves.

And just as with all of us, that has to come not from without, but from within.

On one hand I feel I’ve come a vast distance in just short of three months. Yet I also fell I’m standing here ob my own, and trying to discover the way to show the path to all those I want to join me here and on the road to come.

“It is well, however, to remember that while every effect is the result of a cause, the effect in turn becomes a cause, which creates other effects, which in turn create still other causes; so that when you put the law of attraction into operation you must remember that you are starting a train of causation for good or otherwise which may have endless possibilities.”

– Haanel, The Master Key

There’s still a lot to learn.

 

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MKMMA Week 10 – I Persist

Saturday, December 7th, 2013

I have to admit, when I read Scroll Three of Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in The World for the first time this Sunday, I reacted with acceptance and the realization that this is a core value in success in anything – persistence, just doing it and keeping on doing it until you achieve the result you’re looking for.

I’d seen it written in a hundred different little inspirational quotes, and even repeated a few from time to time. So it was no surprise.

But it also awakened all those past apprehensions I’ve had that had been instrumental in keeping me from being where and who I wanted to be.

It read like a laundry list of all the little devils that had stopped me in the past.

Right from the very beginning – keep on going even if it hurts a little, go right back at it. Much easier to let that one go and try another.

All the way through to doing that one more thing – trying for one more at the end of the day, instead of going home at “quitting time”. Tomorrow’s another day, right?

I know they were all true and good points, but it meant really DOING the things I’d been saying I ought to do. Facing and overcoming all those demons.

But as I read the Scroll three times a day, and as I went through my daily activities, I found myself applying those little tasks – services, perhaps – a lot more easily that I had in the past. And as I DO them, I find a satisfaction that encourages me to continue to continue, and to do more.

When they become easier to do, they become a pleasure to perform, and when they’re a pleasure to perform, it’s our nature to perform them often.

So, as I do more and thus find myself willing to do more, I discovered that these past demons weren’t big scary monsters. Not even little ankle-biting gremlins. I’m finding that I don’t even view them as things to be apprehensive about at all. Just services to perform and perform again until I achieve the result I desire.

I’m not all the way there yet, but hey, it hasn’t even been a full week on Scroll Three.

Bit by bit, without consciously realizing it, the changes in me that I described in last week’s post continue to occur.

Huh, maybe there really is something to all this stuff …

I think I’ll just keep at it until I find out.

 

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